Published on June 27th, 2018 | by Jessica Williams0
DJ Traci Steele & Her 30 Day Man Cleanse
Reality star, radio personality, DJ, military veteran, and now author Traci Steele has been making headlines with her new book entitled 30 Day Man Cleanse: The Guide to Keeping Your Sanity with Men. Written following a bad breakup with an ex that we may or may not know, Traci accepted some much needed advice from one of her good friends and decided to take a 30 day vacation from dating.
I got the chance to sit down with her and ……
How did you come up with the title 30 Day Man Cleanse: The Guide to Keeping Your Sanity with Men?
Traci Steele: I was struggling with these dudes. People have always asked me why do I only date celebrities, and I don’t necessarily. But it just happens to be that the men who are confident enough to ask me out are the ones who are well-known. After a while of dating these men, I was at my wit’s end, I just couldn’t take it anymore. And one of my best friend’s told me that I needed to take a break. I first thought, noooo, I have been single for year’s I didn’t want to take no more breaks, but then she said to me “No I mean like literally, cut men off completely, no communication, no texting, no booty calls, nothing.” I thought it was a brilliant concept but I also thought that it was going to be tough. Truth be told I had never gone 10 days without at least speaking to a man. But I decided to do it. 7 days into this cleanse, it came to me to document my journey, and with that this book was born. I was already posting scriptures everyday on my Instagram, so I asked my followers to join me in this cleanse, because I needed support. And after doing a lot if research and posting these scriptures on my instastories, it came to me, this needed to be a book.
So of course rumor has it that this book was created due to a bad break up between you and Love & Hip Hop Atlanta star Stevie J. Is there any truth to this?
Traci Steele: I am going to tell you like I have told every body, if you really want to know then you have to go buy the book (LOL). It is available on Amazon and I am VERY transparent in this book. I am very open about my relationships. I name names in this book and I specify what I went through and why I dealt with it. I talk about why I stayed and didn’t leave.
Since the beginning of time, women have been cheated on while in relationships. What made you decide to write to not only do the cleanse but to write this book.
Tracie Steele: I felt that enough was enough in terms of dating. I was like “come on, dating can’t really be this hard.” After being 7 days into the cleanse, I didn’t want to just do this myself, I wanted other people to do it with me. I honestly didn’t feel like I was strong enough to go that long with out speaking to any man. Its crazy how when you stop talking to men completely begin to crave their ass. But really when you are in a hectic, chaotic, or toxic relationship and you distance yourself for 30 days, you being to find peace in those 30 days. I began to think that this cleanse was the best thing I ever did. I wanted to share my experiences, struggles, and strengths with other women. So i decided that the best way to do this was to create a book full of scriptures, honesty, and positive messages that could help other women that may be struggling with the same type of issues in their relationship.
What came out of this cleanse and how do you think you will move forward in future relationships?
Traci Steele: Through the cleanse you are praying everyday for 30 days straight. What will come out of this is that you won’t miss those signs any more because God sends you signs telling you that this is not the right person for you. But you are soooo in love or you are soooo connected to this person that you miss the signs. Once you are done with the 30 day cleanse, every sign possible is going to smack you in the face. You won’t miss these anymore. You will actually listen to God. When I started dating Steven, I knew this was wrong, everything in my gut told me not to date this dude. He already had a bad reputation, but I was listening to him and the lies instead of listening to God. God kept telling me “no girl no.” My best friend would call me and say “girl what are you doing?” There were so many things and I chose to ignore them because I wanted love. And he was willing to give it to me. Actually one of the first things he told me was “let me love you.” So with this book there will be no more missing these signs. Remember this 30 Day Man Cleanse is just a start, after 30 days you don’t stop praying, you don’t stop asking God to show you the way to and to guide you.
What are you wanting for readers to take away from this book?
Traci Steele: I want people to walk away with a better sense of themselves. I want them to walk away with a better relationship with God. I want them to build their self-esteem. I want them to become much stronger in those 30 days so that when they are ready to date, their standards are much higher. They will be able to choose better and make better decisions. I want women to walk away loving themselves more.
Even though this book was based off your situation, do you think that men at times need a 30 day cleanse?
Traci Steele: I have spoken to about 30 dudes about this. Every man I have spoken to has told me “yes, we need this book, but we won’t buy this book.” A man may need this book, but the reality is that he does not want to detach from a woman for 30 days. At least that is the consensus that i got from the men that I have spoken to about this. I have to figure out a way to write a 30 day woman cleanse for men, to wear the men don’t have to detach from women but they are able to find themselves spiritually during this time.
What projects can we expect to see from you?
Traci Steele: I am currently on the Funk Fest Tour. And in August I start another tour called “The Heal The World” tour, where it’s a celebration of Michael Jackson and Prince music, and that’s my favorite because I love me some Michael Jackson and Prince music; and it’s so much fun. This tour will run through the end of the year. And then just promoting by book. So make sure you check in with www.TraciSteele.com periodically to see what i have going on and to see what city I will be in next.